Walking Uphill

Today has been a tough day for me emotionally. Sometimes it is easy to get so focused on problems that I forget to focus on where I want to be. I think that today is a good day to play the "wouldn't it be nice" game. In their book, Ask and It Is Given, Esther and Jerry Hicks give 22 "processes" by which to achieve your desires. This process is to be used when you are somewhere in the range between positive expectation/ belief and discouragement.

"When you say, "I want this thing to happen that hasn't happened yet," you are not only activating the vibration of your desire, but you are also activating a vibration of the absence of your desire-so nothing changes for you...........But when you say, "Wouldn't it be nice if this desire would come to me?" you achieve a different sort of expectation that is much less resistant in nature.

Your question to yourself naturally elicits from you a more positive, expectant response.....this simple but, powerful game will cause a raising of your vibration and an improvement in your point of attraction....." Ask and It Is Given, Esther and Jerry Hicks, pg 226.

Just writing this, I can feel my mood lift and my belief come back. Onward with my journey....

Taking risks

“I realized that I’d been talking to the wrong people about my business and my dreams. I was talking to people who would pull me down, not people who would push me up. For me, the hardest part of leaving a secure job and starting a business was dealing with what my friends, family and co-workers would say or think.”
– Robert Kiyosaki (author, Rich Dad, Poor Dad, investor, teacher, entrepreneur, millionaire)


“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”
- Eleanor Roosevelt

“Far better is it to dare mighty things, to win glorious triumphs even though checkered by failure, than to rank with those poor spirits who neither enjoy nor suffer much because they live in the gray twilight that knows neither victory nor defeat.”
- Theodore Roosevelt

I am struggling today. The "old tapes" are re-playing in my head. My spouse does not believe in what I am doing. He tries hard to be supportive, but he is afraid of the risk I am taking and the lack of security. He would much rather I have a hourly rate job that at least had the security of a "set wage." But one of the reasons that he is feeling so insecure right now is that his job may be in jeopardy. Through no fault of his own, he may lose his job. He is worried because we have no other visible means of support and my ventures have not produced profit to this point.

I am tempted to just "give up" and "go get a job." But there is another part of me that says; "you are so close, don't give up." I am choosing to continue and push on toward my dream. I have looked at the "worst case scenario." and I am willing to face that scenario for the possibility of creating my dream.

Decluttering my life

I sit looking around my office today, realizing that things are getting very cluttered. Little piles here and there. Each one pertaining to a different "project" or "category." For a while, I delude myself into thinking, "But, it is organized clutter. I know what each pile is for." I'm sure you understand how it goes. At first there is "organization" to the clutter, but gradually the piles become mixed and the "organization" disappears. Now all that is left is piles that need to be sorted.

Sometimes, my thoughts resemble my office. My mind is "cluttered" with old thoughts and memories. Things that should have been sorted and either filed or discarded long ago. The problem with these old thoughts and memories, is that they color my present view of the world. If my thoughts and feelings around a subject are confused and jumbled, then my reactions are going to be chaotic and confusing to myself and to those around me. My actions will be non-productive.

Even files that are neatly filed into the filing cabinet have to be sorted and decluttered every once in a while. Information becomes outdated and irrelevant. But if it is all the information we have ----it is what we base our decisions on. Imagine trying to purchase something based on prices from one or two years ago. Or trying to find your way on a trip using a map that is 20 or 30 years old. That sounds strange and funny, but how many of us are using old programing and tapes from 20, 30, or more years ago to run our lives? We are making decisions based on old, outdated, or irrelevant information.

I am choosing to go through the files in my mind. Whenever my mind says: "you have to do / or not do ________ because of _________." I am choosing to evaluate the thought. Is it an empowering thought or a dis-empowering thought? Then, if it is dis-empowering thought, I am choosing to replace it with an empowering thought. Just like decluttering my office, this is not an easy, quick process. But, the more I declutter, the more efficient I am in my work and the more confident I am in my results. My performance improves. The same is true of decluttering my thoughts. I make better choices and I have more inner peace. I feel more empowered.

Deciding my route to my goals

I just finished writing in my garden blog. As I was talking about a new flower that is blooming in the garden this year, it made me realize some things about my personal life. I am sure I have had this flower for years, but it hasn't bloomed until now. That may seem strange since I am talking about an iris and they bloom every spring. But this flower has been subject to trauma in the form being transplanted numerous times over the past few years. It has finally been left in one spot for more than a year, the roots have had time to develop and it is rewarding me with the most beautiful flowers.

I think my dreams have suffered the same fate over the past few years. I have been so focused on the lack of "fruit" from my labors that I have been discouraged. It has only been lately that I have realized that the "fruit" isn't my problem. My problem comes from the "roots." The roots are those dis-empower things that I have believed because of past programing. As a gardener, I know that a healthy plant can't come from withered, stunted roots. And an apple tree can't come from the roots of an orange tree.

I am working on digging out the dis-empowering beliefs and replacing them with empowering thoughts and beliefs. Like my flower - it may take a while for the new "roots" to grow strong, healthy, and supportive; but I know they will bring the fruits I am looking for. One of the ways I am re-programing my thinking is to read books like: "Secrets of the Millionaire Mind" by T. Harv Eker and "The Success Principles" by Jack Canfield.

What "roots" are you growing your fruits from? Do you need new roots? Come, join me on this rewarding journey to a full and abundant life. Your comments are welcome.

Stop Playing Victim

"Let go of playing the victim. You can be a victim or you can be rich, but you can't be both. Every time you blame, justify, or complain, you're "slitting" your financial throat." T. Harv Eker. "Secrets of the Millionaire Mind."

"If you want to create the life of your dreams, then you are going to have to take 100% responsibility for your life as well. That means giving up on all your excuses, all your victim stories..............You have to take the position that you have always had the power to make it different, to get it right, to produce the desired result." Jack Canfield "The Success Principles."

Some days, I read these statements and think: "Yes! I can do this, I can build my dream." Other days, I read the same statements and think: "But it is so hard! How can I take 100% responsibility for my life?? So many other people have impact that I can't control! It's not my fault!!!!!"

I am realizing that the bottom line is: What I focus on expands. If I am focusing on statements of fear, worry, or "I can't"; then that is what I get. The other part I have to realize is that the things that are happening now in my life are a result of the things I was focused on in the past. I choose to change my focus today. I choose to focus on what I want to happen, not what is currently happening. Then I am choosing to say: "What can I do next to help bring my dream into reality? What is the next step??"

What is the next step for you? How can you stop playing the victim role and start moving toward your dream?